A recent feminist study said the act of a man holding open a door for a woman is considered “benevolent sexism.”
I had no clue-always thought it was a simple gesture of manners and respect.
I was taught to be a gentleman by both my parents.
Lesson my parents passed on to me covered basic manners, to say please and thank you, to be courteous, etc.
The consequences of not following these simple rules I knew would be swift and unpleasant.
I asked a friend of mine when was the last time he held open a door for a woman who he wasn’t related to or who he was with.
He said it had been 2 years ago and he remembered it vividly.
She looked right at him and asked if her arm looked broken.
While I have never had a woman tell me this, I have seen numerous women walk right through the door I had opened for them with no acknowledgment, no smile, a scowl on their face, often left feeling like a servant.
Interesting that when I hold a door open for a man, men always acknowledge the act with a “thank you”.
I suspect this phenomena of ignoring courtesy by so many women today, is true no matter what part of the country you live in.
True even in the well mannered South, though many of my friends would suggest it is a result of so many Northerners moving to the area.
Of course, there are many other occasions to say thank you.
The waiter who brings water to your table…say thank you. If someone asks how you are…thank them for asking, the clerk who bags your groceries…a thank you is appropriate…all pretty simple stuff.
I always like to throw in a “Your Welcome” if someone fails to acknowledge my simple gesture of courtesy, and the scowls really do come out then.
I miss the “good old days” thank you.